Izzy Avraham is a popular teacher and Internet personality who recently made some waves with his decision to speak out on Target’s decision to take their bathrooms “genderless.” Avraham used the controversy as a teachable moment; for his daughter he used it to teach her how we should respond to the world even when the world seems against us. For Target he used it as an opportunity to teach them how their policies were actually having the opposite of their intended effect and causing a larger problem than existed beforehand. For the Internet Avraham used it as an opportunity to teach us how argument, debate, and conflict should normally be handled.
We could all learn a lot from Rabbi Avraham.
Tirzah and I went to #Target this morning.
I explained to her on the way how some men think they’re women and wear dresses and makeup and want to use the women’s washrooms instead of the men’s. I asked her what she thought of that. She said, “That’s weird.” And was quiet for abit. Then she said, “If a man walked into the women’s washroom I’d fight him until he got out!”
We kept talking and I explained to her that we should be kind and loving to everyone, because everybody is a person with a heart and feelings. But that you can also disagree with the way they’re acting, and think it’s weird.
So we got to Target and introduced ourselves to the manager. I asked her on a practical level how Target’s policy worked out if my six-year-old daughter walked into the women’s restroom and someone with a biologically male body walked in behind her. She said Target has always had a policy of non-discrimination, and that if parents had concerns we could use the family rooms, or Tirzah could come in the men’s washroom with me. I told her that as a concerned dad, I’m uncomfortable with Target’s decision to allow people with male bodies in the women’s washrooms. And that we think it’s weird. We thanked her and left. I kept the whole conversation really polite and as relaxed as possible.
So here’s what so wrong about this. Target’s recent ‘inclusivity’ announcement concludes by saying “Everyone deserves to feel like they belong. And you’ll always be accepted, respected and welcomed at Target.” Really? Telling me you’re ok with men walking into the bathroom behind my baby girl actually doesn’t make me feel like I belong. It didn’t make her feel like she belonged either, to hear the manager tell us that in person. Basically Target just told us – and millions of concerned parents – that we’re no longer accepted, respected, and welcome in their stores.
My friends, Target has crossed a line, and I believe this is a test case. If you’re a concerned parent I invite you to do three things. 1. Share this story. 2. Then go to your nearest Target and do exactly what we did. 3. Then share your story, and use this hashtag: #byetarget
I’m not angry. I don’t hate. I’m just a dad who love.