Grief and Gun Control

grief

Another hideous murder…. Another burst of horror and grief…

And  the survivors  cry for  satisfaction.   Grief demands satisfaction…

Grief is not rational… grief is not civilized.

In its most civilized form grief demands  “answers” and seeks

Some where to place blame.

Even in its best  form,  Grief is not a good basis for creating law.

Law must be created out of cool , calm ,  rational reflection on what

Happened and how it fits into the laws that already exist.

Psychologists  Elizabeth  Kubler Ross and others have codified

several stages of grief  :

Shock.. Denial.. Anger… Bargaining..  Acceptance and Resolution

Among other stages identified by other practitioners.

Every time we make new law,  it in some way infringes on someone

elses  life and liberty.  Usually that goal is to infringe upon bad people. We want

to infringe upon evil but all too often our pain  infringes upon the innocent.

Whether you call  it Murphys Law, or Catch 22 or The Law of Unintended

Consequences ,  laws created out of anger seem to not work as expected.

That’s why  it is imperative  to avoid legislation out of grief.

We must  avoid infringing on the innocent due to our rage against

The  evil that has taken our loved ones.

But instead,   we focus on the gun.  In our shock and anger we point in wide

eyed horror at the weapon screaming  “it’s the gun… it’s the gun”.  We do it every time.

It’s  the  natural emotional reaction of shock.. surprise and fear… but that

Emotional response is one we must move beyond in order to find real answers.

Yet we have not found a way to stop “the carnage”.  Why ?

Because  we  keep focusing on  …. “It’s the gun… it’s the gun…”.

Im reminded of the story of the  drunk who dropped his car keys  in the dark

Of the gutter by the street,  not far from a street lamp.  A man comes along

And finds the drunk looking for his keys in the pool of light under the lamp.

The passerby asks  the drunk  “why do you keep looking under the lamp”

When  you’ve already seen keys aren’t there?”

drunk replies “ cuz that’s where The light is”….

So   we must move on… beyond the panicked  fixation on the weapon .

We might have to look into the

Remember we already have created thousands of  anti-gun laws

Already on the books.  From banning of entire classes of  guns, to even

Micro managing thousands of tiny details,  none  of which have ever

Caused a death… yet  none of those laws have prevented a tragedy.

It’s the gun… the gun … we cry  over and over again,

I imagine psychologists have a more scientific way of describing it.  It has been

Also described as  the definition of insanity:  “doing the same thing over and

Over again hoping for a different result”

And yet we wonder why we haven’t figured it out.

So it seems we must start looking elsewhere for a solution …

We must go into the dark  to find the answers to what

we seek  if there are any.

Where else is there to look?  Here are several fertile  grounds to dig into

  • Existing Laws…. Bad guys always seem to get a gun regardless of laws.

Laws are only obeyed by the lawful… bad guys don’t bother…

Over and over again…We have already created thousands of laws,

Codes, rules and regulations yet … it happens again.

If  laws prevented bad guys from evil… we would be living in paradise.

  • Gun save live… Lost in the noise is the fact that  thousands of lives are

Saved each year because of  “the good guy with a gun”… estimates range

From 100,000 to over a million times a year a good guy/gal prevents

A crime or a death from occurring.. look here … study this body of knowledge.

  • Mental Illness…. The signs are always there ahead of time…

What has changed in our mental health care over the last fifty years..?

More research here… look here… medical answers… not more laws..

In fact there might be too many of the wrong kinds of laws…. HIPPA law

Restrict  information and has severe penalties for mistakes… could it

Be  this is where some “slip through the cracks?”  more research here.

  • Drugs… Legal ones… Pharmaceutical  drugs have unknown side effects

More research here… look here.

  • Illegal Drugs… War on drugs creates high criminal motivations

Much has already been written… look here…

  • Media…. Television ,  Movies , Games etc…  oh boy… look here…

There are  lots   of  things to look at here..

  • Evil …. Evil exists everywhere, all the time… there is no legal protection

Against evil… only spiritual protection … and  sometimes  not even   prayer

Prevents our worst fears… the world is an imperfect place.. we cannot

Make evil go away with another law.  Study on this..

  • Spiritual vs  Material :

We live in a  world that is not  the perfection  that we think our wealth

And privileged lives guarantees us.  We have become a country that

Believes more and more in material things and less and  less in spiritual matters.

Think about this.. fifty years ago we had guns everywhere…  you could buy a gun

In any general  store without piles of  regulation  or licensing….. we had shooting

clubs in high school…  guns were everywhere without  such incidents….

So what happened ?  Have more and more  laws prevented or stopped it?  NO.

So its not about the gun….. and its not about all the thousands of laws already in place.

Its about the spiritual decay in the soul of   America …. And the other elements I have listed.

We can either accept the possibility this  might be the case and begin to think

and study and work on these  elements….or..

We can  stay stuck in  the stages of denial and anger…. We can deny it at our peril

Or we can begin the stages of  acceptance to  other alternatives.  We can keep doing

The same thing hoping for a different result…. Or begin looking elsewhere

Maybe  somewhere  we  can  reach  the final stages of grief…. Acceptance and resolution.

L Truett Phillips

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08/30/15

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L Truett Phillips

Business Broker ... Estate Planner .. Asset Protection... Now semi retired ... small home business Dedicated Constitutionalist ... Lifetime Learner Grammarian Extraordinaire ... Curmudgeon In Chief Son Cian (cheeAHN) is an artist and IT director at California Institute of Art (CIA) in Berkeley Ca, Grandson Finnegan , visiting other grandparents in Scotland. Daughter Ariel (arIEL) and family.. now in So Cal. Grandson Cooper .. a railroad and train fanatic. Son in law.... Tom.. Marine... dont say ex-marine ... now with Caterpillar... super guy.... All doing well. Proud of all of them.

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